So you're in a relationship, dating, or "talking" to someone when eventually the day comes when you say...Mmm I don't want to be involved with this person anymore. Now this could be for numerous reasons: it's just not working out, you met someone else, or you just can't stand that person anymore...who cares! It doesn't really matter, sometimes things just don't work out and they need to come to an end. However, that's what I am most concerned about the "ending"or the break-up. Ending any type of romantically involved relationship can either be good, bad, or your worst nightmare!!! But it all depends on how you end it. Now, if it's a mutual decision then great, but in most cases it's never mutual. Someone will always be left hurt or with some type of feelings about the situation no matter what. The best advice I can give on how to have a proper ending is to be honest.
For whatever the reason is JUST BE HONEST ABOUT IT!!! It's a lot easier to get over something if you know the truth. You may think that letting a person down easy is the best way to handle things, right? WRONG!!!! It's wrong because somehow the word "easy" has been replaced by the phrase "by lying". So we think letting a person down easy means we have to lie to them. We do it all the time....."I have so much on my plate that I just need to be by myself for right now"...."I don't have time"...." You're a really great person but I need to just focus on me right now"....and my personal favorite..."I just need some space right now". BULLSHIT!!! These are all lies!!!! And the funny thing about liars is that they always get exposed. That person that you're breaking up with is going to find out that you lied to them, which is going to create an entirely different problem. The only thing worst than this is if the person ends it by never ending it at all!!! They just drop off the face of the earth and you never hear from them again!
Breaking up is hard enough sometimes! Don't add insult to injury by lying or not even ending it at all!!! If you met someone else or if you've just grown not to like the person anymore, say it!! Some of you may think this is being mean, but it's not... it's honest! I'm not saying you have to be rude or say things in a mean way, however sometimes being mean is the nicest thing you can do for a person. Using one of the lines mentioned above or something similar to end a relationship is only giving the other person hope that they still may have a future with you. And this future really doesn't exist, so in theory you're just leading them on. I know some of you will also say that, you have to end things this way because if you tell them the truth they will act crazy. Well, there's always an exception to everything, but nine times out of ten, if you do it by one of the ways mentioned above....that person is going to act even crazier!!! End a relationship the same way you would want someone to end it with you! Ending things poorly will only bring you more problems in the long run. A honest person will ALWAYS be respected at the end of the day. Ending things badly will only be the beginning of a bogus ending!!!!
Peace,
*Lady J*
Chocolate is a Delight
On a side note I would like to give a shout out and a special thank you to the best writer in Chicago that I know, Anthony Roberts for always supporting me and this blog!!!!! Please check out his work at blog.limewire.com
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Great Article. Personally, the whole "I need space" line IS one of the purest lies that can be told not to just anyone, but to your self. Sometimes when a man says something like that, it means that he is afraid on how the woman is going to react. Deep down, no man can bare to see any woman upset, angered, or sadden.
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