SELF ESTEEM...

Self esteem is the overall impression or opinion of oneself, and the respect or value for oneself. As we all know, most people either have high (good) or low (bad) self esteem. Some people think that the ideal of having high self esteem is so much more than it actually is, but it's not. We see people that either claim they have high self esteem but really don't or we just assume they do because of a certain look or material possessions that they may have, and we compare things about ourselves to others. Having good self esteem is simply being happy in the skin that you're in, no matter what!!!

Self esteem issuses are more common with women than men. Ladies, this is because society judges men based on how much money they make, what type of job they have, what kind of car they drive, if they can provide for their families...those types of things, which are mainly material things and his essence of being a man. However, society judges women more so on our looks. Unfortunately, that's how it is. So ladies, how do we get and/or maintain good self esteem, in this world that constantly puts pressure on how we look?

Be happy with you!!! That's means stop comparing yourself to others, and stop basing the ideal of beauty on European standards!!!! If you're not European...then you are not going to ever look European!!! Embrace yourself for who you are...even if you have flaws! Everyone has flaws, not just you!!! It's ok!!! Everyone is not going to be a size 2 nor look like those models in the magazines. Hell those models don't even look like how they look in the magazine! After all the airbrushing and technology that is applied to those pictures, they've created an image that never existed in the first place!!!! We all come in varies shapes and sizes, that's what make us unique as people. God made you in his perfect image, and that's all that matters!!! And if you meet someone that tries to make you feel insecure about something, then they have the problem, not you. Whether you're a size 2 or a size 20...whether you're short or tall, fat or skinny, light or dark, long hair...short hair....no hair, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!!!

And as women we need to uplift each other more, instead of tearing one another down! Once you can understand that and embrace and love yourself, everything will fall into place. You are beautiful, so be happy with the skin that you're in!!! There is someone that thinks your fine, so please love you because it's time for you to come out your hive!!!! It's your time to shine!!!!!


Peace
*Lady J*
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